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30 Day Love Yourself Challenge

This is a simple challenge to see if I can rewire my brain. It’s based on Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant.

Step 1 and 3 feel “weird” to me. Weird in the way that makes me want to not do them. Which is why I’m doing this. If . Step 2 less so, because I already have experience with meditation. I’m going to do this for one month and report back.

Step 1: Create a New Mental Loop

Due to brain plasticity, whatever actions we do and thoughts we have either solidify existing neuronal connections or create new ones. If you’ve reinforced a thought pattern or habit for years or decades, it can seem like it’s just “who you are.”

But it’s just a well-reinforced network in your brain — it can be overwritten with consistent effort.

  • A thought loop is a pathway laid down by constant use. With enough time and intensity, if you repeat it again and again, you start to create a mental river that controls you. You believe it is automatic and the reality you live in, but really it is just a mental loop you have repeated too many times.
  • You can reverse this process. You can create your own focused mental loops. Repeat, “I love myself” again and again and again. Lay the pathway for that loop to run over and over. Eventually, it will take hold whether you believe it or not.
  • You need to create a groove that is deeper than those unhappy and unhelpful grooves you’ve laid down over the years.

Step 2: Meditate to Help Solidify the Loop

  • Each day, the author listens to a 7-minute piece of music that he likes and thinks, “I love myself.”
  • Pattern: Inhale > Think “I love myself” > Exhale > Let out whatever thoughts you have.

Step 3: Ask Yourself This Question

To help break old patterns, condition your mind to ask itself this question when in situations that make you feel unhappy:

“If I love myself truly and deeply, would I let myself experience this?”

This is one of those questions where simply asking it means the answer is “No.”

Bonus: Look At Yourself for 5 Minutes in Mirror and Say “I Love Myself”

My friend Angelina told me to do this a while ago and I shrugged it off as some “woo woo” nonsense. But I’m going to give it a try and see what happens.

  • Fletcher

    It has been 30 days! How did you go?

    • Pretty good. I didn’t follow the protocol to the letter, but overall I notice more positive thought loops in my head than there were before…I’d say the experiment was a minor success!